Hey love,
I know things are really hard right now. I know you’re trying to keep it together, to smile when it’s the last thing you feel like doing, and to carry on while hiding the pain you’re going through. Some days, it feels like you’re just surviving, not really living. Smiling feels fake. Conversations feel forced. You’re carrying a lot, and I just want to remind you—it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to stop pretending. It’s okay to cry. Let yourself feel it—fully. Let it out. You don’t have to hold it all in.

You’re not alone. Even if no one else can fully understand what you’re going through, that doesn’t mean your pain isn’t valid. You’re still allowed to talk about it. You’re allowed to take space. And most importantly, you’re allowed to heal at your own pace. Even if you can’t see it or feel it all the time, you’re supported. Whether it’s in the quiet moments, in nature around you, or in the small signs that show up when you need them—there’s a presence walking with you.

Grief doesn’t follow rules. It comes in waves. Some days will be heavy, others a little lighter. But through it all, give yourself space to move at your own pace. You don’t need to rush the healing process. You don’t have to hide your pain. You don’t have to act like everything’s fine when it’s not. Let yourself feel what you’re feeling. Cry if you need to. Be quiet if that’s what helps. There’s no right way to grieve. Don’t rush yourself to “move on” or “get over it.” Grief doesn’t work like that.

Try to be gentle with yourself. Speak to yourself the way you would to someone you love. And even though it feels hard, try to hold on to a little bit of kindness—for yourself and for others. You don’t always know what someone else is silently dealing with, just like they don’t know the full weight of what you’re carrying either.

Sometimes your strength shows up in small ways—getting out of bed, showing up at work, replying to a message, or simply taking a deep breath when your chest feels tight. That’s enough. You’re doing better than you think. And even if it feels pointless now, keep moving. One step at a time. That small act might be the very thing someone else needs to witness. It might make a difference, even if you don’t see it yet.

Think about the story of Lord Ram. After Sita was taken to Lanka, he didn’t immediately jump into action. He took time to process what had happened. He grieved. He felt lost. Even the “Maryada Purushottam,” the ideal man, felt sadness and despair. And yet, he didn’t stop moving forward. He leaned on the support of Lakshman, Hanuman, and others. He took help when he needed it. You can do the same. Think about how Lord Ram handled grief—not by suppressing it, but by walking through it with dignity. Even when he lost everything, he never gave up his values. That’s grace.

Grief is not a sign of weakness. It’s a reflection of love, of connection, of meaning. You’re not expected to “get over it”—you’re learning how to live with it. So try to take care of yourself in small ways. Eat regular meals, even if they’re simple. Go for a walk. Talk to someone you trust. Do one thing that feels grounding—even if it’s just sitting in silence for five minutes. And if people around you don’t understand what you’re going through, that’s okay. Not everyone will. But that doesn’t make your pain any less real. Protect your space. Be around people who respect your healing process, even if they don’t fully get it.

You don’t have to be strong all the time. You just have to be real with yourself. And keep going, little by little. You’ve made it through every hard day up till now. You will get through this one. You don’t have to be strong all the time. You don’t have to force a smile when it’s just not there. Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it doesn’t look the same for everyone. Some days you might be numb. Other days, it hits you out of nowhere. That’s normal.

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I want you to find grace in the middle of it all. Grace isn’t about pretending to be fine. It’s about choosing to keep going, even when it’s hard. It’s being honest with yourself about what you’re feeling.  It’s allowing yourself to pause, to break down, and to rest without guilt. It’s choosing compassion—for yourself and for others—even on the worst days.

Grace looks like saying “no” when you’re overwhelmed. It looks like taking care of your basic needs when everything feels meaningless. It looks like letting someone in, letting someone help, even when you’re used to doing it all on your own. You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to keep going, honestly and gently. Let the hard moments come and go. Let yourself rest when it gets too much.

Grief doesn’t mean you’re broken.  It just means you loved deeply. And that love doesn’t disappear—it just changes form. You’re allowed to take your time. You’re allowed to feel everything. You’re allowed to fall apart and rebuild slowly. You’re allowed to say “I’m not okay” without explaining.

You can fall apart and still be graceful. Grace doesn’t mean having it all together. It means choosing not to let your pain turn into anger, bitterness, or numbness—at least not permanently. It means choosing patience, even when you want to rush the process. It means recognizing that your grief matters, but it doesn’t define your entire story.

So if you’re in the middle of it—grieving someone, something, or even a version of yourself you had to let go of—take a breath. You’re allowed to feel everything. You’re allowed to take your time. And you’re allowed to find little moments of peace, even while you’re hurting. You’re allowed to laugh again when you’re ready. It doesn’t mean you’re forgetting. It just means life is slowly beginning to move again. That’s grace. And even now, especially now, you’re worthy of it. You don’t need to be perfect. Just be real. And keep going.
One breath. One moment. One day at a time. That’s more than enough.

With all my love,
Your Sunshine

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